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*Please note that this post and the associated links are on a sensitive and adult topic*

During all the excitement of the New Year’s celebration, I spoke to someone who is a survivor of domestic abuse. I was careful to not mention the past, but my heart just chilled when I heard that the abusive ex-spouse had bought many Christmas gifts for the children.

Really, I thought? How about the true gifts of Christmas? How about peace, love, kindness, gentleness, patience…just for starters? Wouldn’t these be lovely gifts for a woman and her children to receive?

Oh, I wish this family could have both. But this family is the statistic. The one in four.

Did you know that ONE in FOUR women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime?

25% of women.

In many cases, this woman is actually grateful to get through a day and not be hurt, emotionally and physically.

I would think a New Year makes little difference to a lifestyle where you need to be brave just to face each day.

But what if the New Year could be filled with hope and peace?

I recently took the Brave Woman Pledge to help support other women. To reinforce my opinion that peace in their homes should not need to be only a dream. To show that I care about what happens behind closed doors. To point the way to find help and resources for those who battle just getting through the day.

I wish I could do more. But, this I can do!

Will you help?

Please take a look at the Brave Woman website and Take the pledge today  for 2012 and become a champion for yourself or for other women.

www.BraveWoman.org

“That every woman and child will have the supportive resources they need to live without fear in their homes and see themselves as courageous victors, finally free from family violence.”

You can find many resources to help stop this cycle of violence. Below find just a few:

(Btw: The site has a little “x” on each page that you can click to make it “disappear” really quickly if you need to.)

You can find Brave Women online and on the  Brave Woman Facebook Page and on Twitter @Brave_Woman.

Remember: If you are in immediate danger or need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. TTY number 1-800-787-3224.

*Join in a Twitter party on Tuesday, January 17th from 8:00-9:00 pm EST to support all brave women, using the hashtag #BraveWoman.

Want to Take the pledge and then do even more? See As the Bunny Hops for a great idea!

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Become a Brave Woman

Heather —  December 9, 2011

*Please note that this post and the associated links are on a sensitive and adult topic*

The first time I thought about domestic violence when I was about seven months pregnant and I fell down a flight of stairs. I was so frightened that the baby could have been hurt. I was afraid to move, really. One of my children immediately called my husband and he came rushing home and took me to the hospital. Upon arriving at the hospital, I was ushered into a room and my husband was asked to leave. I was confused when they began to ask about my husband. Only later, after all the questions did I realize they thought my husband had hurt me and the baby!

I was shocked. I told them, No, he was at work, I just slipped and he was my hero! (by the way, the baby was okay!) Anyway, later, I was talking to some friends about all this happening and a friend, who worked in health care said that they had done the correct thing, and that domestic abuse generally increases when a woman is pregnant. That really upset me. I could not imagine. How someone could hurt a pregnant woman and baby??

My heart hurts for anyone who has been in a situation with domestic violence.

Did you know that ONE in FOUR women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime?

I am sorry to say, my stair incident was not my only experience with domestic violence. Someone I love dearly has been abused and I am so thankful that this person is now out of the violent situation.

From what I heard and could tell, things just got worse and worse. When you are in love, often you forgive and hope and pray things will get better. However, many studies show that in domestic abuse situations, there is a cycle that begins to be revealed over time and a woman and her children are often not safe until somehow this cycle is broken.

In the situation above, time did not improve matters. Luckily, this was a very brave woman, who was able to become a survivor.

Please, get help right away if you suspect you or someone you care about is in a cycle of domestic abuse!

One site that offers help is www.BraveWoman.org

This grassroots effort is created by women who understand domestic abuse and the possible consequences.

This is a movement “to shift personal and public perception of women facing domestic violence situations from a victim mentality to one of courage and strength.”

Their vision:

“That every woman and child will have the supportive resources they need to live without fear in their homes and see themselves as courageous victors, finally free from family violence.”

I found some resources very interesting:

Personalized Safety Plan

Why Women Stay

Cycle of Violence

The site has a little “x” on each page that you can click to make it “disappear” really quickly if you need to.

Become a Brave Woman Champion. Take the pledge today to show support and to join with other Brave Women in your area. Everyone who joins the Brave Woman community receives a free download of Jana Stanfield’s song, What Would I Do Today If I Were Brave and other sources of reflection and encouragement.

If you are in immediate danger or need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. TTY number 1-800-787-3224.

You can find Brave Women online and on the  Brave Woman Facebook Page and on Twitter @Brave_Woman.

Join in and show your support during the Brave Woman Twitter party on Monday, 12/19 at 1:00 pm EST. If you like, use the hashtags #BraveWoman and #CBias. Here’s the link to the RSVP: http://www.foundthemarbles.com/2011/12/brave-woman-twitter-party/

And, just an aside, my husband does support this as well!

“My research and time has been compensated as part of a social shopper insights study for Collective Bias. Opinions are my own.”