This weeks Blog Cruise asks an interesting question:
How do you find free time? Is it okay to take time for yourself? If so, how?
Now, many people will answer this question straight up. They will probably talk about carving out early morning times, exercise times…book groups…but when I first heard the question, I thought about that Me Time Myth ebook I read last year.
I couldn’t get that out of my mind. So bear with me while I get it out of my system?
When I hear this question, I personally think I am in a time in my life where it really is not useful to have “me” time. Somehow, I always pay for it.
I can just hear everyone now, saying, well, Me Time is healthy! You should get some. But, let me explain. I have 5 kids now…and most are teens. Honestly, life is just moving very quickly around here–and often, I miss something special if I am busy being just me in my me time…
I like to think that I have found ways to incorporate my activities and my rests into our lives. As I don’t have any toddlers running around, for example, I can sit and have a cup of coffee and read a bit. I can plan a little trip (although as my 5 year old has epilepsy, we haven’t felt comfortable leaving her alone this past year–so we have to pack her as well) but still, I have a lot of freedom…compared to women with little ones, I am in a restful period in my life.
And deep down, I do feel like the kids are growing up so quickly now. I have already had one go off to college.
After he left, I was in shock. Somehow I always thought there would be time for more things. I was always telling him– that —“I was busy and we’d talk about that later….”
Oh, you guessed it. I cried when he packed. And cried when we saw the dorm. And cried when I kept listening for his car at night.
And, while I think having a special hobby or work that you enjoy is fantastic, I also think that our culture has skewed our concepts of what actually refreshes us. Talking to my oldest always refreshes me.
I think that we can slow down and incorporate what is important to us as people into our lives as wives and moms.
I do not feel that the two are mutually exclusive. Last year, I read an ebook called, WeE-book™- The “Me Time” Myth. That little ebook really struck a chord with me. You can download it for $1.95 from TOS (no, I’m not reviewing/selling it) I just wanted to share the link if anyone is interested. You can even just read the summary to get some sweet thoughts!
Anyway, my point is that I think Moms need to take a period of their lives to be “hands-on” moms.
When you are doing that, and truly believing that you are doing an amazing, essential thing, you will be refreshed in the middle of being with your family.
So, while I may enjoy a pedicure…or a book…this is one Mom who you won’t hear complaining about being with her kids.
Now, you may hear me complaining about a behavior one of my kids has that I want to get away from!