This week in the How To Have a Heart For Your Kids Book Club, Chapter 2: Enrich Your Marriage
Yes. I meant 30.3444 or maybe 29? All I know is when I hear people talking about being a Proverbs 31 wife, I always think about how marvelous that would be, and how hard it is to really attain that.
It is interesting to me that in this book club, about how to have a heart for your kids, the author gets right down to business with what can really make or break a family. The first chapter is to put God first. And, next, your marriage. How do you protect your marriage? How do you get a great marriage? Well, I agree with the author that honoring your husband, serving him, and treating him like your best friend and ally, not just a work partner, is a good way to go.
Easier said than done! I think the sweeter your husband is, the easier it is maybe to take him for granted. I say that because my husband is very sweet and sometimes I take him for granted. Around here, I spend a lot of time with the few children who make the most noise. Anyone else have this dynamic?
And, when I am not being mommy, and not exhausted, I tend to try to find ways to be me. Maybe do something creative, or blog or even clean. Something not kid related. I don’t immediately go try to do for my husband.
This is funny to me, because when I was younger, I was a single, working mom of two boys. I always though once I had a good husband life would be so much easier…so magical. I saw married women treating their husbands poorly or ignoring them and I thought they were foolish. I would never be like that! Haha. Fast forward 10 years and I see that I am taking my husband for granted sometimes. But, there are only so many hours in the day.
- So, how do you decide how to use your hours? Should I write a blog post, or sit and watch a football game with my husband?
- Should I go get a new shirt I kind of need…or stay home and complete a project that I have been whining about?
- Should I put a ton of effort into getting the children to bed so I can pay attention to some story from my husband’s day?
Well, when you really think about it, yes, yes and yes.
I should make my husband my number one priority. Still, I squirm about that, I mean, he’s not complaining and I have loads of things I want to do to make my life, my home nice. Right?
And, on top of all that, there’s the question of who is really the leader. I married a laid back guy who takes his time making decisions, and wouldn’t force anyone to follow anyway. I, on the other hand, love the idea of being the leader. I move fast! I have ideas! I get people on the boat and moving…sometimes, in spite of how anyone feels.
So which is right? Well, neither in every situation, which is probably why God has opposites attracting so often! But, if I truly believe the Bible and trust God, then I know that I am supposed to let my husband lead.
And that will make my home nice.
I know that, because when I am not stubborn and do that, it always end up lovely. No joke. Still hard to do!
So, how can I take this idea of serving my husband and make it real for him this week?
- Well, I can try to not be stubborn when I think I am right about something this week
- I can offer to do something for him ~ and mean it.
- I can pray that God will help me to be the Proverbs 31 woman of our dreams. Because only God can do that.
*this post is loosely based on chapter 2. Really, get this book!
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