We hear all the time that children are a blessing, a gift from God, our most precious possession.
And, when they are new, aren’t we so careful with them? We spend so much time just looking at them, loving them, teaching them, praying for them, thanking God for them.
And, for most of us, even as they get older, we continue on, loving, teaching, praying. Sometimes just looking at them and being happy for the fact that they are in our lives.
But, other times, we begin to take them for granted. Our culture does not cherish our children. Our culture tells us we can do things faster and thus, better. Even our child raising. We worry about what we should be doing with them. We become busy, tired…in a worst case scenario, our children become a burden. We forget to praise God for the simple fact that we have children.
In the middle of all that, we can lose our heart connection with our children.
Sometimes, this can happen in small ways. Some days I can look at a particular child being rebellious or such and it stops me in my tracks and I think, shoot, “I don’t have that child’s heart right now. What is going on?” I need to stop and think. And pray.
Only, some days I don’t stop and think…or pray. Now that I am getting to be an “old” mom, I often remember to stop and regroup. When I was younger, not so much! Suffice it to say, we all survived.
However, I wish I had owned Rachael Carman’s new book, “How to Have a Heart For Your Kids,” when I was younger.
Why do I like this one, especially? Between you and me, I have gotten two books this year in the midst of all my school plans that stopped my racing mind and reminded me of why I homeschool. This is one of them.
Carman speaks from her own experience as a mother to seven. Seven. Also a national speaker, she has spoken to homeschool mothers over the years on the topic of How to Have a Heart for Your Kids.
In this pocket size, hardback book, she wraps up all her wisdom into five chapters and presents it to Mothers with a beautiful cover and an easy to remember acronym:
- H – Have a heart for the things of God
- E – Enrich your marriage
- A – Accept your kids
- R – Release them to God
- T- Teach them the truth
Here are a few excerpts from the chapters I enjoyed:
H- Having a heart for the things of God: “My beginning point was to realize just how much I needed him”
E – Enrich your marriage: “It is from watching their parents marriages that our children learn trust, sacrifice, loyalty, teamwork, forgiveness…perseverance, joy, diligence,…it is from our marriages that they learn grace.”
A – Accept your kids: “Genuine acceptance of our kids means a radical change of perspective-a paradigm shift. It means seeing our children as gifts.” And, Your kids were sent right on time, on purpose, “for such a time as this.” (Esther 4:14)
R – Release them to God: “That’s what it means to train up a child in the way he should go-to help him go in the way that God directs.”
T – Teach them the Truth: “You must live truth every day and in front of your kids. It is not enough to breathe life into hundred and thousand-year-old stories, no matter how factual and inspiring. Your personal and daily example will either negate or reinforce what you read.”
I found the book a delight to read and finished it very quickly. I then went back and underlined some things I liked and wanted to remember for myself. Her narrative voice IS really just like talking to a friend in the kitchen, which I liked so much. And she gets right to her point and uses lots of scripture and stories to support her ideas. She really doesn’t do any “fluff.”
Trust me, this is a book worth reading. The cost is minimal, $13. I like that the book is hardback, because I can see pulling this out and re-reading portions for years to come. You can purchase the book on the Apologia site.
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I received How to Have a Heart For Your Kids, from Apologia through the TOS Crew for review purposes. I have given my honest opinion.